Recipes for Biblical Solutions
How to Become Less Judgmental
through the Togethers of Scripture
numbers reference our list of The Togethers
found at our other website: www.ChristiansTogether.org
found at our other website: www.ChristiansTogether.org
It takes time and effort to help God. The more serious the situation, the more Togethers might need to be implemented.
RECIPE INGREDIENTS FROM BIBLICAL RELATIONSHIPS
Together Be Led by Jesus Christ (3) God's will for our individual lives fits into the larger work of Jesus Christ through Christians. Jesus as the Good Shepherd leads us as a flock.
With another Christian to help you, talk about the values of Jesus so you can follow in His example. Then consider the statement of Jesus in John 12:47 where He says that He did not come to judge, but to save. Submit with your friend’s help to be like Jesus in not judging.
If you are helping someone else let go of judging others, help him or her to crave to be like Jesus and want to follow His example. Then, talk about His values and eventually consider the statement of Jesus in John 12:47 where He says that He did not come to judge, but to save.
Accept One Another (9) Allow each Christian to be the person God created him or her to be. Get comfortable with differences in people. Have a high regard for everyone in the family of faith.
Let a close Christian friend, your spouse, or your whole family help you grow to lovingly accept without judging others who are different than you or who do not meet your standards. With those helping you, explore why some people act the way they do. Learn together that “accepting” does not mean “approving” of people’s behavior.
If you are helping another wrestle free from the tendency to judge others, explain the benefits of not getting so upset with the behavior of other people. Together, explore why people act the way they do. Learn together that “accepting” does not mean “approving” of people’s behavior.
Be Humble With One Another (18) Practice humility and eliminate pride in your Christian relationships. Consider others more important than yourself, even though everyone is equal in Christ.
Ask a Christian you trust to help you get over your pride that you are better than others. Or perhaps your judgmental thoughts come from an insecurity about your own value and you have to devalue others to feel okay about yourself. If the first is the case, let a close Christian friend or your spouse help you to either see that you also fall far short of God’s standard for you and that it is okay because Christ died for you. Let your friend help you work on your own spiritual growth and not be so concerned about the behavior of others. In the second case, let your friend help you see your own value through God’s design for you and the experiences He has brought you through as training for ministry.
If you are helping another become less judgmental, apply what is said above. You might want to start by just interjecting comments after his or her judgmental statements. Explain why a person being judged might act the way he or she does. Emphasize the truth, “There but for the grace of God, go I.”
Show Mercy and Be Compassionate With One Another (20) Care for one another deeply, loving sincerely from the heart. Be generous with mercy-unmerited and unconditional love.
With your close Christian friends, let them explain why they are compassionate rather than judgmental of those you criticize. Follow in their example.
If you are helping someone become less judgmental, make an effort to explain why you do not criticize those who irritate you. Demonstrate compassion while openly explaining how you think about objectionable behavior.
Disciple One Another (41) Demonstrate the faith, soliciting others to exercise their faith similarly.
Identify a Christian who does not judge and is compassionate instead. Ask her or him if you can tag along to watch when she or he is ministering to the kind of people of whom you are judgmental.
If you are helping another, take them along with you when you relate to those your friend would likely judge. Be sure to explain a bit more than usual why you were able to love the target of your compassion.
Battle Temptation Together (51) Use two or more Christians standing together to fight off temptations before they become sins.
Admit your tendency to judge certain types of people to one or two of your closest Christian friends. Ask them to help you battle the temptation to judge others or feel superior to them. Let your friends have access to your thoughts whenever they ask if you are judging someone. This way they can help you see whomever you have judged in a different light, the Light of Jesus’ understanding and compassion.
If you are helping another who is very judgmental, ask for help in battling one of your own sins. This will help the other not feel like he or she is being condescended to or feel he or she is worthless, shamed, or undesired as a friend.
Note
Other Togethers might be necessary, depending upon the situation. Look through the list prayerfully, letting your spirit be told by the Holy Spirit if any other Togethers should be done.
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If you are concerned about the same things we are, we invite you to join our Advisory Team. This means that we will occasionally send you emails asking your thoughts about an issue we are thinking through. If you would like to be a part of our team, please email Dick Wulf at Dick@Wulf.com and let him know of your willingness to help.
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If you are concerned about the same things we are, we invite you to join our Advisory Team. This means that we will occasionally send you emails asking your thoughts about an issue we are thinking through. If you would like to be a part of our team, please email Dick Wulf at Dick@Wulf.com and let him know of your willingness to help.
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